Thursday, November 5, 2009
Monday, October 12, 2009
I have really struggled about when I was ready to share our journey with everyone, but I guess that now is just as great as any. In the real world, we have been quite open about the past 10 months, but for some reason, I just needed more time to be ready to bring this to the blogging world.
So, if any of you know me, I have wanted to be a mom, since, well, before I can even remember. When I finally got the go head from Scott that we could start the trying process last January, let's just say I was ecstatic!! We began the process and since I was so ready for this and I had other friends who had started earlier than us, I had already started taking my temperature to make sure that we did not miss a month of the possibility of having our own precious baby! As the months continued on, and my body started doing some crazy things, I knew that it was time to go see my doctor. She put me on clomid for three months, it worked great the first month and I thought we were in the clear, and the next two months were unsuccessful. Now, I have always has the mindset, that if there was a problem, instead of sitting around feeling sorry for myself, (which I have done a few times in this process, don't you worry) I wanted to move forward to find the solution to our problem. So after three months of intense hot flashes and no baby, we moved on to the ART fertility program at Brookwood hospital. Most people would be crushed that they had to take this step, and before going for our first visit, I was quite nervous, the idea of being called a fertility patient really freaked me out and still does to a degree. But when Scott and I walked into that office and saw that the entire waiting room was filled with people that were going through the exact same thing as us, it truly put my mind at ease.
After some painful tests, we learned that I have an anovulation problem, endometriosis and my cervix is basically shut. Now, all of those things really don't encourage a baby, now do they??! After talking with our wonderful doctor, he told us that our best choice to have a child would be to do invitro. Now, before Scott and I walked into ART we had agreed that we would take a step back from this process when we got to the invitro stage, and low in behold it was the first step that we needed to take. After many long conversations between the two of us, soul searching on if this was the right direction for us and seeking the Lord first and foremost. We both came to the decision together that we were ready to move forward with invitro.
The month before the actual procedure is like a well oiled machine at ART. We received a calender of what to do each day, I had shots to take and pills to pop. I have to say a HUGE thank you to all my amazing friends that have had to give me shots during this process. From in a movie theatre bathroom (Katherine), to many night at your apartment while I moved in for week (Hewitt), or at bible study (Jordan). We would not be where we are today without all of you!!!
So we kept going in for check ups day after day, until they told us that we were ready for the main event. The egg retrieval turned out to be very successful. Those little babies grew and grew during the next five days until they put the blast cysts back in. We received daily updates about our little babies during those crucial days and we ended up putting two babies back in my "feather bed" of a uterus as the sweet nurse had put it. We have four other blast cysts that we have frozen to use for our next babies. Do we sound like the Jetson's or what??!!
The hardest part of the whole process was waiting the nine days from when they implant those two babies to going to take the pregnancy test. We did pretty well until the day of the test. I was a complete basket case. I had done everything the doctor has told me to do, I stayed home from work for four days laid around and relaxed, it was pretty nice, I might add. But knowing that besides relaxing nothing I did would help those little babies to make a home in my "feather bed" of a uterus, unless it was what the Lord willed, helped me deal with my control issues pretty quickly. The day of the test, I had had some pregnancy symptoms, and our doctor had also told us that he would be very surprised if I was not pregnant. These were both very good signs but in my heart of hearts, I just could not believe anything until we heard a yes from the nurse.
Scott and I had decided that we wanted our nurse to leave the results on our patient message system. Since the office would usually just call me in the middle of the day with results and this result was a little to important to listen to by myself. We wanted to listen to it when we were at home together so that we could hear either great news or the opposite with just the two of us. So the wait until four o'clock began. Since they would have given us the results in the middle of the day, this was quite a long wait, knowing that the answer was on the voicemail the whole time.
Well, 2:30 hit and I started to feel sick from nerves, how was I going to make it to four, I really wasn't sure. But we made it and called the number together on speaker phone, it was just crazy, that this message was going to either tell us yes, we are having a baby, or no not this time. So definite, so concrete. So much time and effort and prayer had been put into this entire process, and this woman on the other end of the message was going to give us some of the most important news we had ever received.
The speaker phone was on, and I had dialed the number, completely scared out of my mind, as was Scott, and the only thing we both heard was congratulations!!!! I just burst into tears, tears that had been waiting to escape for sometime. The emotion that we both had been caring around, trying to be strong for each other, trying to be prepared for a no, was all out on the table. Scott, finally had to look at me and say, "Kate, this is a good thing." And it was, it was the best news that we had gotten all year. After hearing so many nos, I just couldn't believe that it was a yes!!!
So as of last Thursday I am six weeks along, we are due June 3rd. Quite early, yes I know, but if you are reading this please lift up a prayer for us as we continue down this amazing road. We got to see that incredible little heart beat last Thursday, and we will continue to go to ART every week as they monitor our progress until they release me to go back to my regular ob. It is still very surreal to me that we are in this place, that it is not the sweet girl next to me having a baby, but after all this time, that it is me. All you girls who are where I was, just wait for the feeling when it is actually you, it is more than you could imagine, I promise.
I think that as we have moved from one stage of this process to another, I just don't want to ever forget the path that the Lord has taken us through. Scott and I have grown so much in our relationships with the Lord, waiting for His time and His answers. We have grown in our relationship with each other, learning how to hold each other up, how to support each other and how to love each other well. I would not have asked for this journey at all, but the blessings that continue to spill out from it have been more than I could have imagined.
If you are going through this hardship, I would love to talk to you. I just don't think that the Lord would put me through this long process without opening a path to help others who are in this place right now.
Updates to come on our new baby Howell!!!
Monday, August 24, 2009
Monday, July 20, 2009
Wednesday, May 13, 2009
So I have decided to let you in on a few of my favorite spots! I am sure that you have heard of some of them, but for the others who have not here you go...
1. The TJ Maxx in Hoover on Highway 31: Ok, this place is one of my FAVORITES!!! There is a Homegoods right next store which makes it even better. I remember my mom bringing my sister and I into TJ when we were younger and I hated it. But my feelings have changed and it really is the motherload!!! I have been into many a TJ and this one is the best I have ever been in, (next to the one in Chicago, thanks Wellon). They have started carrying a Runway section that has top designers at FABULOUS prices. They have jeans too, Sevens, Hudsons, Paper Denim, and many more right now at great prices way below any boutique or department store. But the best part is that they have a few clearance racks of the Runway collection, my latest purchases have been a Bagley Mischa dress for $34.00 and a Vera Wang Lavender Label cardigan for $29.99. CRAZY DEALS!!! Also, besides the Runway section, they usually always have a great dress, for some reason they price Laundry dresses at $29.99. But I don't mind one bit!!
2. Tuesday Morning: Ok, this is one that is VERY hit or miss. But there has been a few times that I have walked in and taken a look and thought that I had found some pretty great treasures. They have WAY discounted cooking items. From Kitchen Aid to Le Creuset they have it all, at prices that would make you jump out of your seat. Their sheets are wonderful, and they have a great variety of colors and sizes (but wait til later for my sheet find)! My best purchase from Tuesday Morning has been my lamp that is in our den. I had been looking at it for quite a while, and after Christmas with a little extra cash. I got it, it was a $500.00 lamp that I got for $99.99. I walked out of their that day a happy lady with a great lamp!!
3. Southeastern Salvage: This is one of my newest finds in Birmingham. I went here because someone at work told me that they had a great deal on sheets. I got there and found way more than sheets (even though I got either 800 or 900 count Queens size sheets for $29.99). While walking around I realized that they have beautiful high quality and unique tables, mirrors, lamps, light fixtures, doors, home decor and much, much more. We needed a new mirror for our bathroom and I found one that I really loved for $59.99. What a steal!
3. GardenRidge: While you are in the neighborhood of Southeastern Salvage in Irondale drive next door to Gardenridge. This has been a recent addition to my list as well. This place is HUGE!!! They have everything from umbrellas, to picture frames, inexpensive purses and wallets, to yard furniture, on to pillows, and a huge variety of pictures and picture frames for the walls and tons more that goes on and on... This place takes a lot of time because there is so much to look at. You can for sure get lost in this joint. But worth the drive and I am sure that everyone can come out with an inexpensive treasure.
4. The Warehouse: Quite sketchy I know, I am not to sure about the real name of this place. I found out about this place from one of the mom's at Canterbury and it is a great one. There is a clothing company that is based out of Birmingham, called Lush. It is sold in boutiques across the country and I have seen it in many stores in Birmingham. Well, the owners put all of their old merchandise out ONLY on Tuesdays from 8 until 5, for customers to come and shop. And the prices are between $10.00 and $30.00. Most of their stuff is jersey dresses and tops. You have to try things on in the bathroom, but don't worry they have a mirrior,I promise this place is so worth it! They are located on 2nd Ave. North right before Niki's West. It is a warehouse building on the left. If you need any more information about this one let me know.
5. Kid's Consignment Sales: I am sure that most of you moms out there know all about this one. But since some of my friends are newer moms, this is something that I have just come across. I feel like it really is an underground world. Whenever I have gone to one of these sales for my friends, it seems like every mom in Birmingham knows that it is going on. But the prices really are unbelievable for all age children. When my "mom time" comes, I will be one of the undergrounders as well!
So I hope that this has been as fun for you as it has been for me!! If you have any great deals, please pass them on and share. As you can tell, I get pretty excited about a new find. Let's just not tell Scott!! =)
Monday, April 13, 2009
One of the highlights of Louisville this past weekend for Easter was when all of my cousins (I have quite a few) ,with much coaxing from my mother, decided to have a Peep eating contest. It was hilarious! I will try to find a picture to capture it, but my cousin Nelson, won with an impressive 13 Peeps in his mouth at one time!! Let's just say memories were made, Christ has risen and Nelson is the Peep champion!!!
What has been going on with us the last month you may ask, as my blogging has been nothing but sporadic. We have been busy going to the lake, flying to Dallas, TX for a shower for Sallie the sister, heading to Seaside with all the wonderful Howell girls, sneaking a Dave Barnes concert in with Scott, going to a bull riding contest (that was Scott I am sure you could guess, he has a shirt he bought there that he is very proud of), fixing up the house a bit, and joining a Tuesday night tennis league. When I look back at the list it does seem a little overwhelming. But when someone is asking me what is going on in our lives, I always say not much. Sometimes I think that our life as a two and a half year married couple seems quite mundane, but after looking at that list I think we are pretty busy people.
Our excitement continues as we are heading to see Wicked this Thursday. This is my FAVORITE play and Scott will be seeing it for the first time. Can't wait!
Sunday, March 1, 2009
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
Saturday, January 17, 2009
Tuesday, January 6, 2009
Christmas was perfect, we went up to Franklin to spend some time with my family and then back to Birmingham for Christmas with the Howells. We had wonderful time with family and Scott and I even won the Howell family quiz, very impressive, yes I know!!